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by DoveGrey
Sat Jul 06, 2024 3:51 pm
Forum: Question of the Day
Topic: 07/02/2024 - Red flags for a new church
Replies: 31
Views: 1317

Re: 07/02/2024 - Red flags for a new church

DoveGrey, , my name could have been listed as the author of your most recent post. I almost left the church of my entire adulthood during the pandemic because of political partisanship. Fortunately the pastor led us away from it. I just spent time with a small group studying deconstructionism.. Whe...
by DoveGrey
Fri Jul 05, 2024 10:26 am
Forum: Question of the Day
Topic: 7/5/24 - what are your July 4 traditions? do you do your own fireworks or…?
Replies: 13
Views: 448

Re: 7/5/24 - what are your July 4 traditions? do you do your own fireworks or…?

We can't have fireworks in our town because our fire department is strangely happier when the town isn't on fire. There is a local fireworks show and festival, but we haven't gone to it in years because of heat, crowds, and traffic. We're also often out of town on the 4th. When we are in town like t...
by DoveGrey
Fri Jul 05, 2024 10:17 am
Forum: Attitudes about Sex
Topic: Mental blocks to touching
Replies: 10
Views: 666

Re: Mental blocks to touching

I agree with PlumPurple. See if your wife has any idea what changed. But approach it less from a "I want to touch you" perspective and more from the perspective of "You used to enjoy this, and I wish I could give you that pleasure again." There are many reasons why a woman wouldn...
by DoveGrey
Thu Jul 04, 2024 11:07 pm
Forum: Question of the Day
Topic: 07/02/2024 - Red flags for a new church
Replies: 31
Views: 1317

Re: 07/02/2024 - Red flags for a new church

I would add to this: - Not welcoming - Not involved in serving the local community - Very political, particularly so if combined with patriotism Those all resonated with me. I'm currently with a new church that I will likely join because, in part, I needed a church that was more active in serving t...
by DoveGrey
Thu Jul 04, 2024 9:51 pm
Forum: Attitudes about Sex
Topic: Make-up Sex
Replies: 22
Views: 1587

Re: Make-up Sex

So, after we've made up, apologized and forgiven each other, and reaffirmed our love, THEN we will have sex. And that sex is tremendously healing in that it powerfully communicates to both of us that everything is over, back to normal, truly forgiven, and our love is yet strong. I tried to define w...
by DoveGrey
Thu Jul 04, 2024 1:48 pm
Forum: Question of the Day
Topic: 07/04/2024 - Who was your first kiss?
Replies: 30
Views: 1335

Re: 07/04/2024 - Who was your first kiss?

A guy I dated in high school when I was 16. That was a big deal for me - most girls I knew had their first kiss in middle school, and I turned down multiple guys because I wasn't ready. But he mattered. He went off to university and we lost touch with each other. I occasionally trip over him on soci...
by DoveGrey
Tue Jul 02, 2024 9:27 pm
Forum: Question of the Day
Topic: 07/02/2024 - Red flags for a new church
Replies: 31
Views: 1317

Re: 07/02/2024 - Red flags for a new church

Any church that is exclusionary of any of God's children. I recently sought a new church in large part due to that.
by DoveGrey
Tue Jul 02, 2024 4:10 pm
Forum: Attitudes about Sex
Topic: Make-up Sex
Replies: 22
Views: 1587

Re: Make-up Sex

We've had makeup sex once. I had just been through a several-month period where I had zero desire to have sex. I was starting to think I'd aged out of sex - I was all of 42, with no signs of perimenopause to mess with things. A pastor I was conversant with as part of advocacy in the #churchtoo movem...
by DoveGrey
Mon Jul 01, 2024 5:03 am
Forum: Question of the Day
Topic: 06/26/2024 - How old were you when you got married?
Replies: 44
Views: 1699

Re: 06/26/2024 - How old were you when you got married?

I was 16 years old. He was 25. That was legal? The age of legal marriage is quite low in many US states if you include parental and/or court consent. 4 states in the union technically have no minimum age. https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Marriage_age_in_the_United_States For us, we married between o...
by DoveGrey
Mon Jul 01, 2024 12:48 am
Forum: Marriage Roles - Headship/Submission, Unsaved
Topic: Friend with a not-great marriage
Replies: 11
Views: 441

Re: Friend with a not-great marriage

Wow. There's a guy who's desperately unhappy. My heart goes out to all 6 of them. It's stories like this that made me realize pregnancy isn't the greatest reason to get married. I don't know that there's much you can do other than be a good listener, as well as encourage her to protect the kids. Wha...

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