What is the minimum frequency a husband should get his wife off???

[Crazydaddy]

In my house, I guess the answer is as often as she wants it. The reality is her O isnt really my reaponsibility. It's ours, together (same with mine, really). My DW doesn't necessarily want an O every time we have sex. I try to read her and make sure I get it taken care of when she does want it. If I miss signals, she will reach for her "Old Reliable" and take care of it while I watch and lend a hand or two.

[Paradox]

I know to the vast majority of men, his orgasm is a pretty important part of sex (not the only important part). For many women, her orgasm just isn't that important. Many can and do enjoy sex with their husband very much whether they have an Orgasm or not.

Yes, both having an orgasm would be the "best, top tier" sexual encounter. Making it a requirement is unrealistic and unfair.

This is our experience. My wife enjoys the foreplay much more than she seems to need the orgasm. She has never been overtly disappointed when she couldn't quite get there. Typically, "quickies" are almost entirely for me, but the longer foreplay common in our love making does not necessarily lead to her orgasm, and she is fine with that. It's kinda hard for me to understand, but she keeps coming back.

[MrMarried]

When we have sex, as many as she wants, until she gets to a good stopping point where she wants to stop.

I think sex and orgasms should be every day or night except for periods, so she should get off every night, but I haven't been able to convince her she needs it that often.

[SeekingChange]

The reality is that there truly are no easy answers. There are a myriad of reasons as to why an O might not be that important to a woman.

I do believe that the majority of those reasons have nothing to do with the husband's ability or her feelings for him.

I kind of feel for the men on this. Because of hormonal balances my husband cannot always finish with an orgasm. No matter how much I logically know the reason why. No matter how much he says he enjoyed it all anyway, it takes a hit to one's confidence, and the depths that entails. But that's on me to work through, not him, but it gives me empathy and understanding for the husbands in this place.

All of that is to say, Guys, give yourself a break. Your wife is just as frustrated that her body won't work the way she wants it too. However, regardless of her reasons, she can still enjoy sex with her husband.

And this is very true, when an orgasm is eluding me, I am just as frustrated if not more frustrated with myself than he ever could be.