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What are reasons/benefits to have sex?

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What are reasons/benefits to have sex?

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What are reasons/benefits to have sex with your spouse? How many can you think of & can we come up with?
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I'm gonna start with comfort and connection.

Sometimes it's a reminder that it may be "us-against-the-world" (or maybe the kids?) or it's an expression of love when it drives us into the arms of the one who loves us and knows us the best.

I know people have talked about it here about how powerful and memorable it was after they'd lost a parent. We had a situation in our house where we'd had some tough discussions with a kid and then retired to debrief and connect. I offered to comfort her like David did with Bathsheba after they lost their first child...DW said "no, ain't happening". The lights are off, we say our good nights and settle in. Next thing I know, DW rolls over and decided it's a good idea. :?: :o She was fired up like she was pre-menopausal. ::pray
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*better sleep

*pain relief
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God’s intent
Connection
Intimacy
Pure ecstasy
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I feel more tender toward her afterward. Even if she is just doing it for me, but it is best when we both O.

I notice that toward the end of a week without I tend to get irritable and have to watch myself. So there is some kind of emotional connection that happens when there is the physical connection.
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I agree with all previous responses and would add that it keeps the pelvic floor in better shape.😉
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newwifenewlife wrote: Tue Mar 16, 2021 6:42 am What are reasons/benefits to have sex with your spouse? How many can you think of & can we come up with?
Writing only for myself here, when I want to become completely and wholly one with DW, this is what I would choose to do. There is nothing else in the world that gives me this unique experience.
2 Timothy 1:7 "For God has not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind."
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The afterglow is a huge reason for me. Another one that I don't feel I have proof for, except what I have read and heard, are the benefits of semen for the wife. I often tell DH that now I can be happy again, for a few days.
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A celebration of unity
Release
Better sleep
Fascination with how our bodies are created for more than working and eating.
Something to look forward to in a busy life.
I certainly enjoy bringing DW to climax, I mean it, I have real joy seeing her receive pleasure.
Yes, one of the reasons is to have kids, and we love our kids.

I also echo what others said^^
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Echo what was previously said with an emphasis on feeling of connection and deep intimacy with DW and creating family.
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