PIV but help..

[Lynn]

I have noticed the last couple of times, dh and I have piv, but seems he will use his hand to get his orgasm started then finish in me? Does not full but will give a few thrust and then give a few help with the hand.
We do travel in a camper so full hard thrust arnt always possible. Am I too lose to to give him full satisfaction?
This seems to be new. Just trying to figure out if it is something he does because he needs to? Or so he don’t take too long?
If I ask him, it is usually some excuse because either he is embarrassed or don’t want to talk about it.

[KatieMarie]

I doubt it has anything to do with you being “too loose”. Maybe he just wants to finish faster?

[garyb]

For me, it’s likely an age thing. If it’s late, maybe consumed alcohol prior to PIV or sometimes I just can’t get to the PONR. It doesn’t happen often, maybe once every couple of months but just last week I “had to have” some Yuengling at dinner, which recently became available west of the Mississippi. But it was pretty late too. I have to bring myself to the edge then quickly enter her.

Other times, I barely have to move when inside her especially when she’s “getting at it” with her wand. As I’ve aged, mid-sixties, I’m finding, if I feel it’s going to happen, we agree I just go for it. I always follow up helping her, if she so desires to O.

[DoveGrey]

Do you feel like you're getting satisfaction from him being inside of you? If so, you're probably not too loose. If yes, you could try Kegels.

However, your camper situation might be the best reason. Is he afraid of being heard or seen?

[MiddleMan]

I'm in my mid-50s and had to do this recently. I was unable to maintain my erection and this was the easiest way to finish. I can see how that would be embarrassing to talk about. Thankfully DW and I have been more open to communicating about sex than we used to be and she took it in stride. I assure you, it has nothing to do with her.

[LovingHimAlways]

I'm in my mid-50s and had to do this recently. I was unable to maintain my erection and this was the easiest way to finish. I can see how that would be embarrassing to talk about. Thankfully DW and I have been more open to communicating about sex than we used to be and she took it in stride. I assure you, it has nothing to do with her.

We are similar. Dh is mid 50's. He will usually lose his erection while pleasuring me so I will give him some quick oral right before PIV. There have been times that he did it himself with his hand.

I don't let it bother me. I know it isn't a sign of how he feels about me, it's just a part of aging.

[Crow]

{Raises hand}
Me too!
Orgasms have gotten harder for me due to age, medications, and other medical conditions. These days. I’ll often pull out and get myself almost to the point of orgasm by hand before sliding back inside to ejaculate. Usually, I’ll give her some oral stimulation while I use my hand on myself. Giving her oral when she’s very wet from intercourse is very arousing and helps to put me over the edge. We make the best of it, and I’ll sometimes “paint” her clitoris and/labia with a pulse of two of semen before sliding inside and pressing my hips against hers.

Orgasms have gotten harder for my wife with age as well, and she usually uses her wand on her clitoris while I thrust inside her. It’s gotten easier for her since she started hormone therapy, but she’ll sometimes use her wand anyway to give herself some extra orgasms after achieving orgasm from intercourse alone.

[ShaunH1]

That is a good question, Lynn. For me, that would ruin the orgasm because it feels tighter inside than having to use my hand. He may just be very turned on and is experimenting with different sensations.

[Ron]

I don't understand why people are so embarrassed to talk about their sexual needs or desires. When we were younger we didn't much, but as we have gotten older, we just say what is on our minds.