09/19/2023 - Influence of spouse?

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09/19/2023 - Influence of spouse?

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Does your spouse influence your appearance? If so, how or what do they influence?

Examples could be your style of clothes, your grooming/hygiene habits, your hair, etc.
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Re: 09/19/2023 - Influence of spouse?

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There are specific items that she has influence over, such as I will wear a shirt that she likes, or something similar. Overall tho, she is careful not to go too far outside of what I would choose for myself. On occasion she has picked a color that I wouldn't have, but I am pretty flexible with that. Where she has failed miserably, and will continue to do so, is to get me to wear any kind of patterned shirt. I am quite monochromatic.

I think that in most areas, we are both comfortable with the choices the other makes, so there is little reason to change.
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Re: 09/19/2023 - Influence of spouse?

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DW buys just about all of my clothes. I am pretty easy going and wear most of what she buys for me.
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Yes and no. She'll buy stuff for me and I’ll wear it. People have commented that she’s influenced the way I dress. At the same time, she’ll say no because I’m a creature of habit and there’s certain things I won’t do or am as concerned for or care about than she does. I’m a creature of convenience and comfort. DW also wants a full beard and I refuse. I HATE the maintenance and upkeep. The best I will offer is a tight goatee and ‘stache

Some day I’m gonna find a velour warm up suit, Velcro tennis shoes and get some gold chained bling for neckwear and greet her at the door to take her out for dinner. She’ll promptly decline to be seen in public with me like that unless I take her to VOA and buy her a “crazy outfit”. 😂 The thing is I would be serious…seriously happy and comfortable. :D
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Re: 09/19/2023 - Influence of spouse?

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I am not sure they influence me or not.

But, I always like to look good for my wife. I try to stay fairly fit, dress in nice clothes when we go out. I get rid of out of style stuff for the most part.
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It is quite likely that I would have facial hair of some sort if I were single. My wife finds facial hair ticklish and it becomes a big turn off to have her squirm and react any time I try to kiss her or nuzzle her in various places. So, because I enjoy intimacy with my wife I shave regularly.
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Re: 09/19/2023 - Influence of spouse?

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Soon after we started dating she told me some of my clothes looked too nerdish and it was time for a change.
She liked my mustache, so she was somewhat sad when I eventually many years later cut it off.
Other than that, there is not much to do, I am no slave to fashion.
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I think I was already dressing as she would have selected. She wants clean shaved, fresh hair cut, preppie looking clothes, which is what I already wear. I'm sure if she tells me she likes that shirt I probably wear it a little more often in the future, but I don't feel like I'm having to dress a different style just to please her.
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We both have our own particular tastes, but will listen to the opinion of the other.

Dh hates shopping and will avoid it if at all possible. For that reason, I buy most of his clothes. He does have particular things he likes and doesn't like so I stay within those parameters most of the time. Every once in a while I will get something he wouldn't ordinarily choose. As long as it's not too wild or bright, he will usually go along with it.

He had a goatee for many years because he new how much I liked it. Unfortunately he had to go clean shaven for other reasons.

Dh comments very rarely on my clothing, hair,make up etc. When he does I do take notice. For example; I know he likes my hair long so I do keep it on the longer side. If he likes a particular outfit I will try to wear it more often or on a date night.

There is only one time that I can remember, when he made a negative comment about something that I wore. He was very gentle with his comment, but it did kind of sting at the time. As i thought about it more I realized that he was correct in his opinion. This particular item was not very flattering on me.
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Re: 09/19/2023 - Influence of spouse?

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I got rid of, and stay away from most stripes because he doesn't like them. His tastes do influence what I choose to wear at times. There's a lot of little things I do for him, that I don't know that I would do otherwise, from keeping my nails painted, to what I sleep in, wearing scents, etc.
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