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10/15/21 - What questions do you ask your spouse...

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What are some questions you ask your spouse:

1) regularly to connect? (daily?...weekly?...monthly?

2) annually to connect and evaluate how you can serve and love them better?


BONUS
- Is there a special time or place that you'll ask?
- How often do you do ask?
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I will sometimes ask, "How was your day?" and then I may ask more detailed questions about specific things.

Being married to a talker, I find I rarely need to ask questions. Ready or not, it's all coming out. ;) :lol:


He will occasionally ask me, "How do you think we are doing?" And it might follow with a few more specific questions. This happens a few times a year, typically at night when we are in bed, or when we are in the car alone.
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We always have an end/beginning of the year conversations where we talk about the new year and we’ll ask questions like “what can we stop or start doing that will communicate value and love to the other?”

We usually do some weekly check-ins in bed at the beginning or end of the day.

We also will ask, what was the day’s hi and low? Or what was something you enjoyed or laughed at today?
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Mrs. Youngbear/Oldbear always says, “Tell me stories!” This is whenever we’ve been with other people or have a business, church, or ministry meeting.

We also have regular ‘calendar dates.’ We sit with cups of coffee and our calendars - I use gCalendar and she uses her Franklin DayTimer - to coordinate, sync, and discuss our individual plans and commitments and joint plans and commitments. Lots of conversation beyond scheduling happens.
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We don't really have conversations about our relationship; weekly, yearly, etc. They happen more randomly.

There is one thing that we have done for our entire marriage. Each week/work night after dinner, I ask dh about his work day. He tells me about things that happened each day, good and bad. Many times he will discuss issues he might be having with staff.

I enjoy hearing about his day and it is my hope that it helps him to have an empathetic ear.
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We don't have conversations about our relationship either. My wife asks maybe once a day if I am okay since I've battled a chronic neurological condition for 25 years but other than that our conversations are more random. We've never had an inability to communicate and we both have very similar interests. Right now she's working from home so we've had a rare opportunity to be working around each other for most of the day and I think its been enjoyable since we get to make more time to interact rather than trying to cram it in after a 10 -12 hour shift...
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Re: 10/15/21 - What questions do you ask your spouse...

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I will ask my wife how I can honor her.
Another one when her work schedule is crazy busy is what she needs me to do.
And then typically, what's for dinner? :roll:
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