Any guys find it really hard to orgasm?

[rlkn]

I would feel inadequate if I couldn’t get my DH to O from oral, like I wasn’t a good lover.

Sometimes if it’s done to lightly you don’t get all the feelings needed to cum. I think sometimes wife’s think they have to be too general with the manhood.

[rlkn]

“ gentle “ not general

[KatieMarie]

KatieMarie,
Now you know how it feels when a man has difficulty giving his spouse an orgasm.

Reason number 999,992 why I am glad God made me a woman.

[LovHer]

Count me among those that has never O'd via oral. We haven't done OS in years, but I never O'd using it alone back when we did. PIV has only been once or twice that it was a problem, and that was with a condom after holding back for nearly an hour. Most times, I could O in <1 min via PIV or with my own hand if I wanted to. Her own hand doesn't work as well, but it can get the job done.

I agree with what others have said about psychological effects, particularly knowing that she doesn't want a mouthful of semen.

I'm guessing you have tried various techniques/speeds etc?…

I would have said the same thing about hand jobs years ago (it would take me forever to cum if she were giving it to me). In the past she would sit between my legs and I would lay back on the bed/couch. This meant that when she would grasp my penis her 4 fingers would be running over the top side of it and only her thumb was sliding across the bottom. One time she decided to sit behind me and reach around and grasp me from behind. This put the palm of her hand and her 4 fingers on the bottom of my shaft, making for a much more intense experience as they slide across the frenulum. I came within a couple min! From then on we usually do it that way.

Same thing with oral. Though I still have difficulty working all the way to an O with just oral (which is surprising, since it's such a turn-on for me), one thing that we discovered is very important is the slow building of intensity. Sometimes she literally stars by just using her breath over my genitals and not even touching them. Then she will start using only the very tip of her tongue with extreme gentleness. She keeps it very light for a good while even though I've reached a high level of arousal. Only after I give her certain signals does she increase the licking/sucking intensity and finally take the head in her mouth (first sucking very lightly, then increasing and adding some friction). Building very slowly usually does the trick. If she starts out fairly quickly with a more decisive contact, I may not reach an O without her using her hand to help get me across the finish line.

[Marco]

A guarantee to organism is oral and prostate massage. A well lubed gloved finger massaging the prostate, you gonna climax. Besides, it’s healthy for the prostate to be massaged

[Smith]

I would feel inadequate if I couldn’t get my DH to O from oral, like I wasn’t a good lover.

Your husband is blessed to have you.

[proverbs519man]

An update. Gotten a full oral session to completion now. I had to ultimately grab my wife's head and be aggressive as if I was penetrating her PIV. I was hesistant to do this as she usually gets a gag reflex but she says my aggression turned her on enough she lost the gag reflex mostly and besides liked being such a source of pleasure.

Since then she has told me I do not face f*ck her enough.

After 15 years my wife continues to impress me.

[BrianShelio]

I find it hard to orgasm with OS. My DW is great at doing it, and it feels wonderful, but I am too nervous about finishing in her mouth or on her...

I am sure she would be ok with it, as she likes to please me and make me happy, but for some reason, I cant do it. Does anyone share the feeling?

[chicocoke]

I find it hard to orgasm with OS. My DW is great at doing it, and it feels wonderful, but I am too nervous about finishing in her mouth or on her...

I am sure she would be ok with it, as she likes to please me and make me happy, but for some reason, I cant do it. Does anyone share the feeling?

I would agree with you, in that as wonderful as it feels I have never been able to relax enough to finish in her mouth. Going on 30 years....

[Tantalum]

I find it hard to orgasm with OS. My DW is great at doing it, and it feels wonderful, but I am too nervous about finishing in her mouth or on her...

I am sure she would be ok with it, as she likes to please me and make me happy, but for some reason, I cant do it. Does anyone share the feeling?

Yes, I think I know what you mean.
This is how it is for me:

1.) DW’s mouth just doesn’t give me the same wholesome sensation as her vagina. Even though she tries her best with her tongue and lips, it still feels a bit “empty” as compared to the full, enveloping feeling of her vagina, the gentle folds inside, the full length of my penis being stimulated.

2.) As I near orgasm I like to thrust quite intensively. That’s no problem with PIV but I would be worried to cause discomfort to DW with oral.

3.) On a related note, I like to ejaculate with quite a bit of force and sometimes when we haven’t had sex for a few days, I produce quite a bit of semen. I feel awkward about pumping it into DW’s mouth; I feel worried it might make her gag or something. So I try to avoid doing this when I feel really excited.

4.) Finally even though DW is very generous and happy to give me OS, I think she quite likes the sensation of semen inside her vagina. I don’t think she gets the same feeling of fulfillment from OS.