This! I may pop him on the butt as I walk by him but, it usually has nothing to do with sex.
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Around age 40, together we began a journey that took us to different places, investigating hidden/unspoken likes and desires between us. Trust in one another, enduring love and unquestionable respect always were keys for us as we would reveal these inner thoughts and desires, discuss the possibility, and often try new things. I am blessed with a VERY willing partner. One avenue on this journey took us into, among other things, incorporating spanking (within limits). It was no surprise to me, given the way she responded to my playful smacks in our entire time together, that she was open to this. We have primarily played with spanking as you would think, my hand on her bottom. We have a small, rubberized version of a cat o' nine tails....and she LOVES it! The "handle" end of this device has a "feather duster" sort of plummage, and the feathers are used to create and totally different feel alternating with the smack.
It is incredibly important, as I picture people aghast at this, to again state that she and I have total trust in, and respect for, one another. I LOVE this woman with all of my being. I would never push past anything that she was not "good with", or enjoying. It isnt inflicted pain, but rather, different sensations the bring about a heightened arousal. It always has much more pleasurable caresses mixed in than it does any smacks. Though these arent things that are incorporated into the majority of LM sessions, she gets turned on when they are.
That is our story and our experience. If it brings about questions, please ask. If it makes you shake your head, remember, different strokes.... If it disgusts you for us, or in us....know that we are quite the loving, "normal", professional couple, deeply committed and in love.
Have a great day.
She will smack me, and I do not oppose, but I get more 'pleasure' out of her being aggressive to my front side, more so than my backside. And she gladly obliges (she's power hungry lol).
However, there are times when the mood flips and she's feeling a bit more that she wants me to discipline her. Not merely in the bedroom, but wherever I choose. So, I make sure she gets what she wants.
All within our boundaries.
stephany96 wrote: ↑Tue Aug 24, 2021 1:03 pm
Growing up in California, one spouse spanking the other out of discipline is not a practice I’m familiar with from my church or upbringing. Just kind of curious as to the reason behind this family practice. Is it the church or culture your husband’s family grew up in? Being from California, things are definitely more progressive out here. Is this type of discipline often? Just seems to put one spouse (in this case the wife) in a subordinate position. Any light you can shed would be helpful.
As an example, she will be performing an edging hand-job, or we will engage in a PIV position where she can stimulate me with her hands while I thrust. When I get right to the edge, she sometimes grabs my testicles and stretches them down... Hard!
If that stretch and squeeze works, she will periodically slap my testicles while they are partially stretched, or even while they hang loosely.
It is technically, a bit painful, but if the slap is properly measured and applied right before climax, it not only stops the climax, allowing edge play to continue, but also sends a shockwave of very different pleasure signals through my lower body. It's tough to describe, and part of me wants to tell her to "go easy", but there's another part that says, "whoa; what was that!".
To me, it's a bit like spicy food; I like hot Thai cuisine and frequently make it too hot to eat more that a couple bites without a break... Yet, I keep coming back for more!
To be clear, she's not hitting me hard enough to damage my testicles, but applying more of a sharp stinging "pat". She laughs and accuses me of being "weird", but we already knew this, so I just tell her to keep smacking me when I near the edge.
When she's teased me leading up to the hand job, or if I've had the visual stimulus that I crave, these "smacking" hand jobs or PIV edging sessions sometimes lead to multiple orgasms for me!
SeekingChange wrote: ↑Wed Dec 02, 2020 11:42 pm I can show you Scripture that supports spanking children, can you show me Scripture that supports spanking a wife? Off of the top of my head, all the "discipline" passages I can think of are in the context of parent/child or F(f)ather/son. I don't recall any about the husband/wife or Bridegroom/bride. This would point to the fact that the idea that spanking created for spouses to discipline, circling to sexual, is a perversion or distortion of intent.
Yeah definitely not discipline and not domination, well certainly not on the husband I would think.