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Finding the right lubricant

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My wife and I have struggled to find a lubricant that works well and feels good to her. We have tried some products from KY, Astroglide, and a few others but none of them quite fit the bill.  The main problem is that DW doesn't like lube that is cold and sticky. It makes her feel messy and it hinders her arousal.

Usually her natural lubrication (plus the lube on the condom) is enough but she has experienced chaffing recently after a few minutes of intercourse.

Any suggestions?
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Re: Finding the right lubricant

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Coconut oil! Sorry, just a little opinionated on the subject. I also hate the feel of typical lubricants and CO was a game changer for me. Good luck!

Edit: wanted to add that I found out today that oil based lubricants should not be used with condoms, so maybe try it just for play or OS. 

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Any particular kind of coconut oil that you would recommend? I have heard about it but I am unsure of what exactly to get. Do I just go to the grocery store and get it off the shelf? lol
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Re: Finding the right lubricant

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I have to be careful here because I could probably write a book about how much I love CO. Yes, you just get it at the grocery store. I prefer the kind that comes in a jar, usually extra virgin although I doubt that matters. It looks solid and white but melts in your hands quickly to a silky clear liquid. It feels very natural. And will not leave grease stains on sheets or clothes like other oils. I see another answer mentions condoms in a way that implies you shouldn't use it with them, so look into that because I don't know about that.

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Re: Finding the right lubricant

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We prefer extra light olive oil. It's great as lube, plus makes a good massage oil too
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We use LOVE, by Lorna Vanderhaeghe. I like coconut oil, so we sometimes use that. DH prefers the LOVE, but we keep both handy and use CO for oral.
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I totally agree with @HisGirl, but I saw you mentioned condoms, so I figured it was out and I wasn't going to say anything because I have no other recommendations.   Artificial lubes leave me feeling slimy and dirty, CO does not.  The skin absorbs it and it doesn't leave a residue feeling.
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You aren't supposed to use it with condoms? I never heard that before. It's a non-issue for us now but we did for years!
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Any oil based lube, including olive oil and coconut oil,  should not be used with latex condoms because it can dissolve the latex, causing them to break.
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Re: Finding the right lubricant

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We like Pink Water and Sliquid H2O. Both are water based so safe with toys but will require repeated applications for extended sessions. CO is goo too.
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