Co-sleeping and Sex

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SeekingChange wrote: Sun Feb 07, 2021 8:00 am
Oldbear wrote: Sun Feb 07, 2021 6:56 am Having sex with the baby in the room? Never crossed our . . . at least my mind . . . a young husband never gave it a thought!! 😁😂
"Never gave it a thought", as in you would never dream of doing it? Or you didn't give it a second thought on there being an issue with it?
😂😂 Never gave it a worrying thought! The combination of being a young, horny husband as our infant baby slept, didn’t hold me/us back! 😂😂
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SeekingChange wrote: Fri Feb 05, 2021 8:08 pm Do or did any of you co-sleep? If so, how did you make it work with your sex life?

Any tips to help others make it work?

This is not a thread for those to oppose this, if one desires to debate parenting/sleeping practices they are welcome to start another thread.
We never did it. My wife was firmly against it.
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Currently sharing a bed with our 2-year-old. Done all of the above, and more probably.

We will just keep very quiet or move him temporarily to one of his siblings. No biggie.
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Over the past 7 years we have co-slept with all three kids from 6-10 months after birth, mainly due to my DW breast feeding. With our first child, we usually placed her in a swing or bouncer while we had sex and she slept. By the time our second and third child arrived we upgraded to a king size bed so we had more room have slow quiet sex while co-sleeping.
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When I built our home, I built a sun room next to our bed room.
When the youngest was born, I turned sun room into nursery.
This placed baby close by but not exactly in same room.
The first year of baby's life, I was, in practice, a single daddy with a baby and an invalid adult.
I installed and worked many short cuts which made the job easy.
It all worked for the best.
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MrsNerd wrote: Fri Feb 05, 2021 10:31 pm I kept nursing babes close. It certainly put a damper on things as I didn’t want to wake them.
Once after weeks of illness and stress, disconnect, my DH was desperate to ML, but my babe was inconsolable, for whatever reason(probably teething), unless latched on nursing. Finally in the middle of the night we had gave up trying to get baby in it’s own space and DH had a quickie from behind while I nursed baby on my side. It wasn’t ideal but was important for my relationship and I obviously wasn’t aroused. Later I mentioned it in passing on an online parents forum I was in at the time and got horrible, horrible accusations and comments from people, being accused of being a sicko, pervert, etc. Needless to say I left that community and wondered if anyone else valued their spouse’s needs as much as I did mine, and if there was something wrong with me that it didn’t bother me to have been nursing. I feel it was needed with my young baby, and feel not having pursued arousal for me was the key. It was hard enough to pursue arousal with them in the same room much less latched on.
That said, it would’ve been nice to have had another room to steal away into for LM.

We have done this too. It was very nice of you to let DH connect . My wife also nursed baby and she insisted
we continue PIV from behind.
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We had Both babies in a cradle by our bed from newborn until about 3 months then transitioned to the crib.

Having baby in the room with us never interfered with sex.
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When they were really little, well, for the first one at least, we had one of those cribs where the side dropped down so my wife could easily nurse the baby. When he got bigger, at about two, we had one of those beds that rolls under another bed, a queen, and the little one slept there. We could have sex on the bed with the covers pulled over us. We also had another bedroom next door we probably only used for sex or the occasional guest. When they got big enough to interfere with sex, I made sure they slept in another room.
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Never been a fan, but I recall a woman back in the AOL Christianity Online Message Boards (1999) who did it. She had one or two children in their bed every night, and a thirteen-year-old daughter with her own room who still slept in the family bed on occasion.

And yet, this woman was having more sex than pretty much anyone else on the boards. She and her husband were both high drive, and ready any time. One of their most common was the laundry room. IIRC it had a door to the house and a door to the outside. They would lock both and go at it. On the floor, on the washer, against the wall, whatever.

I'm sure the teenager knew what was going on, but they didn't care.

All this to say a couple whats to co-sleep and have regular sex can make it happen if they want to. Of course it helps if both are all about sex and she orgasms easily.
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