Dale wrote: ↑Tue Feb 16, 2021 5:48 amSo, guys, if you were sitting in such a seminar, what kinds of things would be the most helpful for you to hear? I'll have almost an hour and a half to give the presentation, and I'm a fast talker, so I can cram a lot of info into that amount of time!
Give me your best ideas! I'll also be posting a thread for the ladies about what they think men ought to know. Thanks in advance for your help!
The first thing that came to mind as I started this reply was Vince Lombardi's famous quote, "Gentlemen, this is a football." The importance of understanding the fundamentals cannot be overstated. As a teacher in my previous vocation I saw that up close and personal. Whenever I think about sexual education in the church the verse that comes to mind is Hosea 4:6a, “My people are destroyed for lack of knowledge.” Many people don’t understand the basics of God’s design for sex.
My recommendation is start by building up foundational knowledge. Basically Who, What, When, Where, Why, How.
Who designed sex? God.
What is God's design for sex? In a sentence He designed sex as a fun way to physically, emotionally, and spiritually bond a married couple while also creating the possibility of offspring. The goal is for husbands and wives to work together in good faith to fulfill each other’s and their own sexual desires.
Why did He design things the way He did? Because He loves us and wants us to experience the gifts of pleasure and intimacy and be pointed back to the gift-Giver.
and so on and so on.
Everything else flows from that fundamental understanding. If a husband understands for example that God designed sex for both
men and women and he truly embraces that design he will work with his wife to make sure she truly enjoys sex and doesn't see it as a duty or obligation. My wife is an equal sexual partner. If PIV is tough for her then I'm going to adjust my expectations and engage in more non-penetrative sex so that she has a more enjoyable experience.