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I have never shared with her what I know about their situations because I believe it would only be hurtful to her and detrimental to our (very long term) relationship with them.
I consider it a "what she doesn't know won't hurt her" situation.
Now, I ask.... is that keeping a secret? If so, then count me as a yes.
Those are just the two that pop into my mind. There may be more in this category.
We share things with each other. If people share confidential things with me, I still usually share with DH. However, there are a few things that we keep to ourselves. DH likes to keep an eye on the news and troubling things. I don't. So he has learned to keep that to himself. I have a few things that I keep to myself, too, just because it wouldn't serve a purpose. We do talk about whatever comes to us. I mean, I do. For instance, I sometimes ask him a question or bring up a discussion from here. But, I choose carefully, lol. Otherwise he asks why do people ask such questions or say such things?! Nor do I want him telling me everything that comes on his family chat.
We keep most of our passwords in the same book. DH has access to my phone and I do to his. However, we don't check up on each other.
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While an utter introvert and Melancholic temperament, people can read my energy as an open book and I'm learning to share. The problem comes in when I "vomit" everything about my thoughts/feelings/opinions to my wife and it becomes hurtful as she is a people pleaser. (We're working to address these things.). Yes, I can be a bull in a china shop, especially after raising three boys and now having multiple women in the house who aren't used to an involved dad/male figure with an opinion or a reaction (because you just didn't cross the narcissist/anti-social guy or you "paid" for it emotionally) who is still there and loves them.
With all that said, does the "secret" change behavior? Share it. Get the potential self-destructive secret and behavior out into the light. Is sharing the "secret" more about one wanting one's spouse to make one feel safe or secure or making the "secret" keeper better about themselves without thinking of the impact of one's spouse? Maybe it needs to remain unshared especially if it creates instability. If accountability is needed, talk to friends, pastor, or a counselor.
Yes, this pretty much sums it up for Me.