Dealing with low libido and vaginismus...

[chicocoke]

Sounds hopeful! Send us an update after you get the medications.

[MrMarried]

This is my opinion: If she wants intercourse, give it to her. If she needs to be stretched out first, stretch her out. Try to make the stretching sexy and romantic. Do vibrating dildos her at the early stages of the stretching out? Treat the stretching like a sex act. Kiss. Say sweet romantic stuff. Caress each other.

[Sygoonda]

The only working solution for PIV without pain was hormone treatment in the form of creams. First doctor prescribed, then cheaper natural ones online. They worked. Then she stopped taking them without comment to me due to "headaches" she said. I'll spare the rest of my story.

Your story sounds a lot like mine

[olafthewise]

this all depends on the condition of the marriage, mental health of both, age and fitness (HJ does overwork her shoulder muscle), and above all, ones morals and beliefs.