2nd Pelvic Rest

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2nd Pelvic Rest

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GRRR...ANOTHER month of pelvic rest. LOL.

While obviously I should be understanding and I get it, and my wife is still giving me handjobs...I just miss the closeness.

This pregnancy has been full of wife being sick, tired, and now two months of pelvic rest. Yuck.

And yes I know she has it worse than me, so I shouldn't be complaining. But it's still a major part of my life and it has an impact. I think I have a right to whine somewhat. :lol:
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By pelvic rest, You mean NO activity down there whatsoever?
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My wife had to stop having sex after about 2 months of being pregnant. We did a few other things, but not much. It was several months before we could have again!
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Re: 2nd Pelvic Rest

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The last 2 months of pregnancy ad the first few months of birth she was on pelvic rest. The last two months of pregnancy I received a lot of OS mainly out of fear that touching her would induce labor.
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The doctor just said no penetration. So I am ok giving her oral.

Oral on me is challenging as my wife has a bad gag reflex and cannot get me off that way. So it basically turns into handjobs which aren't as connecting although they can be powerful in their orgasms.

If anyone has any other suggestions let me know. Breast sex doesn't tend to get me off, just not enough stimulation although the view is great.
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proverbs519man wrote: Sun Aug 27, 2023 11:41 am The doctor just said no penetration. So I am ok giving her oral.

Oral on me is challenging as my wife has a bad gag reflex and cannot get me off that way. So it basically turns into handjobs which aren't as connecting although they can be powerful in their orgasms.

If anyone has any other suggestions let me know. Breast sex doesn't tend to get me off, just not enough stimulation although the view is great.
See the other thread for my suggestions but again, maybe it's time for creativity and exploration and when she's tired, you take over while she lays with, touches, kisses and caresses you...and you her.
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Thanks dude.

My wife is fairly exhausted as well between the two kids and the pregnancy so I'm trying not to push too much on her in terms of doing things to me. She makes her body available to me which is great. So like today I put the fleshlight under her butt and penetrated and it felt fairly close to intercourse. And she could just relax.

Not that I don't like enthusiasm from her but I get that it is hard for her.

I appreciate your suggestions though. My birthday is coming up so I might figure out a way to gently suggest it without making her feel like she has to tax herself.
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proverbs519man wrote: Sun Aug 27, 2023 12:18 pm
... She makes her body available to me which is great. So like today I put the fleshlight under her butt and penetrated and it felt fairly close to intercourse. And she could just relax.
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That brings up two other ideas my wife will use on occasion for foreplay (release on occasion). These are both in bed and might be used more in the morning when she's tired and still partially asleep but I'm horny. She'll lube me up, lay on her side, and I'll place my penis between her legs and I'll thrust. She can squeeze her thighs and/or use a vibe on herself and/or on me too. The other thing she'll do is "hot dog" sex by lubing me and her butt and then I can place my penis between her cheeks and I can thrust and she can squeeze her cheeks for greater pleasure and friction. Obviously, this has to be done on the side for a pregnant women but it's also fun to do (when not pregnant) by laying on top of my wife.
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The hot dog sex idea sounds great but I'm a bit concerned about accidental anal since that has happened before when attempting such. Especially if it's really lubed back there, easy to slip in (at least somewhat) and I generally need a rather fast thrusting motion to orgasm.
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Thanks for the suggestions though it's helpful. I might give it a whirl. If anyone else has any ideas let me know.
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