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How old were you?

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Re: How old were you?

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I was in my 20's. I was at work looking through a file cabinet for something, and someone had stuck a couple magazines under the contents of the cabinet. I opened one and didn't get past a page or two before I realized it was pretty dumb stuff. Wasn't appealing at all. Put it back and left it alone. They could still be there 20 years later for all I know (haven't worked there in a long time). Aside from that, I've never sought porn out. I was in my 20's before I had regular internet access, and by then I had heard too many examples of other men (including some friends) who struggled massively with it, and it just scared me enough to keep me away from it.
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I guess it all depends on what your definition of porn is. Way before the internet I was a sixth-grader on the school basketball team when other guys would pass Playboy centerfolds around the locker room. Nudity is not per-se porn, so if you are asking me when I first saw the real hardcore thing it was as an adult after the internet arrived. Probably in my 30's (for most of my life you had to go out and buy certain magazines to see that sort of thing and I just would never have done that).
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I was four. Neighborhood boys and I found magazines in the dumpster across the street. Hardcore...not just Playboy. It really affected me. I had a few years without any and then our family got a computer. I saw a lot of porn videos on and off throughout my teens.
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Interesting question.

I had the typical teen years experience for a lad of those days, Playboy magazine, Hustler, and some others, but nothing more than that. (Remember, that like @Oldbear, they had just invented the printing press during my youth too.)

During College days, or shortly thereafter, a friend described some raunchy scenes that he must have seen on film - men putting their feet in an odd place. (Decades before the 'net - more like during the transistor radio days.)

As the son of an alcoholic, I have always known that I was susceptible to addictive behaviors, so among other things (drugs, for example) I stayed away from porn. A friend who was also a full time Minister mentioned in the early Internet days when nothing was very controlled (and still dial-up), "just how may ways can someone do it - after a while it gets boring", but I didn't go check to see what he meant by that. I was afraid to.

And, traveling in Europe, I did discover TV channels that were nothing but LM'ing - if you can call that love.

Then, just recently, now with the 'net being what it is, while doing some research on PE - the same research that led me to TMB - I found some links that led to porn. Boy, I wish I hadn't.

I really don't like the hard core porn. One of my personality traits - discussed in other threads on this Board - is that I don't like to be taken advantage of. Porn is all fake and edited and shot and re-shot until the unrealistic result is produced. That flies all over me. I figure that just about anybody doing it in front of a camera is putting on some kind of an act, and that makes it fake to me.

So, I'm kind of like the Apostle Paul - I do what I don't want to do and don't do what I know I should do on some occasions. I'm just glad that it took me seven decades to find this. I worry about my teenage grandsons.

Ironically, some of what I did see there - not the really bad stuff, but more like the norms, combined with what I saw discussed and learned about on TMB, led me to be a little more adventurous in my own bedroom, and the result has been spectacular, so I don't count it a total loss.
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Actually now that I think about it a few years before I got the internet I was traveling on business and staying in a hotel room where they had Cinemax in their cable package (I only had basic cable at home). At that time they ran soft-core porn late at night, and I caught a few minutes of a grainy film that looked to have been of European origin and dubbed into English. It was pretty stupid actually (the guy owned a small Cessna and would fly from city to city where he'd engage a new woman in some different activity at each stop).

My general opinion of porn is that it's a waste of time. The soft-core porn doesn't show me anything that I haven't already seen. And the hard-core porn doesn't show me anything that I ever want to see.
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Irnmyk wrote: Wed Jun 09, 2021 8:51 am Ironically, some of what I did see there - not the really bad stuff, but more like the norms, combined with what I saw discussed and learned about on TMB, led me to be a little more adventurous in my own bedroom, and the result has been spectacular, so I don't count it a total loss.
I think this is related to where a lot of wrong thinking comes in, which I have seen more in women than men...."We can't do XYX, because it was seen in porn.... or it's a "porn thing", and that's why it is wanted." We forget who the originator and Creator of sex, imagination, and variety is, and it's the enemy who distorts and perverts it. There are many who seem to subconsciously take the different belief that sex, imagination and variety are of the enemy (often via porn) and God may use it for good.

I think many of us have a mixture of these wrong messages/beliefs, that we must sort through. We need to separate the truth from the deceptions. We need to separate the desire for variety or a certain act (likely part of God's design) from what the world/enemy has tried to turn it into. We need to also evaluate and whether some of our brokenness is impacting any of this, and how.
God can change what people do, behavioral patterns that have been in play for decades. He can change what we do to cope, to find comfort, to survive conflict, to count. Rahab had done a same old thing for years... and then she did something new.
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My first exposure to Playboy was in the late 60's around 9 or 10. We were at my Great Uncle's home for a big family gathering. My Dad's cousin had just returned from the Navy. We were playing downstairs in the basement and there was a stack of magazines on the counter. I saw them and the half dressed woman on the cover, but didn't open it up. It was of a woman laying on the beach with top in hand, but breasts weren't fully exposed. After that it wasn't until mid 20's out of curiosity I picked one up and browsed or more likely perused. It was then infrequent until in my 30's when it was both Penthouse and some videos. That was a time I was not walking with the Lord. After a number of years, something happened that prompted me to read Psalm 51 after which I repented and completely trashed the stash. That was about 20 years ago now.
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When I first watched? Probably twelve or thirteen. It was a weird time in my life, I discovered the term "getting a girl wet", not having had the talk yet; it all snowballed from there. I still struggle with it, prayer and seeking marriage has helped cool the embers a bit.
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