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I had the typical teen years experience for a lad of those days, Playboy magazine, Hustler, and some others, but nothing more than that. (Remember, that like @Oldbear, they had just invented the printing press during my youth too.)
During College days, or shortly thereafter, a friend described some raunchy scenes that he must have seen on film - men putting their feet in an odd place. (Decades before the 'net - more like during the transistor radio days.)
As the son of an alcoholic, I have always known that I was susceptible to addictive behaviors, so among other things (drugs, for example) I stayed away from porn. A friend who was also a full time Minister mentioned in the early Internet days when nothing was very controlled (and still dial-up), "just how may ways can someone do it - after a while it gets boring", but I didn't go check to see what he meant by that. I was afraid to.
And, traveling in Europe, I did discover TV channels that were nothing but LM'ing - if you can call that love.
Then, just recently, now with the 'net being what it is, while doing some research on PE - the same research that led me to TMB - I found some links that led to porn. Boy, I wish I hadn't.
I really don't like the hard core porn. One of my personality traits - discussed in other threads on this Board - is that I don't like to be taken advantage of. Porn is all fake and edited and shot and re-shot until the unrealistic result is produced. That flies all over me. I figure that just about anybody doing it in front of a camera is putting on some kind of an act, and that makes it fake to me.
So, I'm kind of like the Apostle Paul - I do what I don't want to do and don't do what I know I should do on some occasions. I'm just glad that it took me seven decades to find this. I worry about my teenage grandsons.
Ironically, some of what I did see there - not the really bad stuff, but more like the norms, combined with what I saw discussed and learned about on TMB, led me to be a little more adventurous in my own bedroom, and the result has been spectacular, so I don't count it a total loss.
My general opinion of porn is that it's a waste of time. The soft-core porn doesn't show me anything that I haven't already seen. And the hard-core porn doesn't show me anything that I ever want to see.
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I think this is related to where a lot of wrong thinking comes in, which I have seen more in women than men...."We can't do XYX, because it was seen in porn.... or it's a "porn thing", and that's why it is wanted." We forget who the originator and Creator of sex, imagination, and variety is, and it's the enemy who distorts and perverts it. There are many who seem to subconsciously take the different belief that sex, imagination and variety are of the enemy (often via porn) and God may use it for good.Irnmyk wrote: ↑Wed Jun 09, 2021 8:51 am Ironically, some of what I did see there - not the really bad stuff, but more like the norms, combined with what I saw discussed and learned about on TMB, led me to be a little more adventurous in my own bedroom, and the result has been spectacular, so I don't count it a total loss.
I think many of us have a mixture of these wrong messages/beliefs, that we must sort through. We need to separate the truth from the deceptions. We need to separate the desire for variety or a certain act (likely part of God's design) from what the world/enemy has tried to turn it into. We need to also evaluate and whether some of our brokenness is impacting any of this, and how.
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