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TheAccountant
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Has anyone thought about developing an App for this board or implementing a live chat/group chat feature? Seems like some good ideas to expand this board.
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Good question, and the answer is for the more higher-ups (aka the Admin.)

I am going to throw my personal opinion in here though.... I have been a part of different forums and from my experience with live chats via IM, it caused a LOT more issues and fostered a lot of sin, especially when it's around the topic of sex. Sin likes to thrive in secret and darkness, and one on one chats, where there is no accountability, seems to be a perfect breeding ground for that. Personally, I would not recommend it for the integrity of TMB, and the people who are a part of it.
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Building on what @SC said, I think it makes it difficult on women if there is a chat feature. And I suppose it isn't just women, but also men who very much aren't interested in more personal conversations with women. I could be wrong, but I suspect women would be more on the receiving end of unwelcome IM pop ups. (If you're reading this, random pervy lurker, I strongly suggest you don't try it with me, btw.)

As a guy friend told me recently, he feels safe with me because he knows what he's getting. There aren't any surprise physical contacts like hugs or arm touches from me. He can talk to his wife about me without feeling like he has to talk to his wife about me, if you see what I'm saying.

Having an IM or chat feature adds that element of surprise and lack of control on the receiver's part. It's an intrusion. It isn't always unwelcome, but it can be. Our current DM system allows us more control. If there's a DM I'm not in the mood to answer, I can leave it alone for the time being. I have control over it.

If we had a way to turn the feature off, or were able to specify who was able to IM us (wives only, for example), then I wouldn't be opposed to it. I might not use it, but I could see how others might. But the control over it would need to be there.
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Re: Live Chat/App

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Having an unmonitored chat feature is not a good idea on a forum like this, for the reasons SC outlined. It was talked about with what was then the Oversight Group several years ago and rejected as being too problematic.

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Because I have live chat in my business world (business has more employees than this board has members), and have a feel for the good and bad of that, I can't see how having that would be a good thing here.
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I agree with @SC, @DG, @Dale, and @Urn-Mic. The negatives for such a feature outweigh the positives, probably by a large margin.

To get a glimpse of what a chat-like feature can do to a community like TMB, check out this comment: viewtopic.php?p=42209#p42209. I'm sure some think that TMB wouldn't have that kind of stuff happen, but I absolutely disagree. Sites like this attract, and always will attract, people that can be considered "wolves in sheep's clothing". I can guarantee you that some people who frequent this site are not as they appear to be, and I don't need any special mod knowledge to say that (I knew that long before becoming a mod).

Personally, I'm concerned enough about the PM (aka DM) system we have here. I can only pray and hope that the authentic people here are wary of wolves and properly report any shenanigans they see in the unregulated realm of PMs. Honestly, even two well-meaning and authentic people can unintentionally end up going places they shouldn't without the accountability of the open forum.
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Re: Live Chat/App

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Got it. Thanks everyone for the different thoughts around it. I guess I was thinking overall more like a group chat thing, but then again that's what this already is 😂. Love the people on here!
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Re: Live Chat/App

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As a former mod on several discussion boards, I can tell you that when active, live chatrooms were the bane of our existence. They are an open invitation for internet trolls, perverts and the like to hang out and cause problems. In online communities where you pretty much have to trust that people are who they say they are, they are never lead to productive discussions and they are a drain on mod and admin resources. On a forum like this, it would lead to many of the old culprits we dealt with in the old days taking up residence again. I am sure the new staff would like to avoid that at given how quiet it seems around here compared to the old days...
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