3 pieces of advice

[RedsPastor]

If you could ONLY give 3 pieces of advice to a couple that you knew were getting married, and ONLY 3, what would you say to them? And why those 3 pieces?

[footnassman]

1) never go to bed angry with the other
2) put your partner's needs above your own needs and wants, and
3) never go to eat at RedsPastors house...word is he doesnt wash after using the potty...

[RedsPastor]

1) never go to bed angry with the other
2) put your partner's needs above your own needs and wants, and
3) never go to eat at RedsPastors house...word is he doesnt wash after using the potty...

First off, you didn’t give a third piece of advice.

Secondly, you assume I’m asking bc I’m the one that does it

And third, even if two is true, you assume that I don’t wash before I prep my food, which ISNT true one bit.

Now, give me your third piece of advice, Mr. FNAssman.

(For the record, all of this is in good humor)

[SeekingChange]

1. Keep Christ first, because a surrendered life means you will be trying to love as He did, and that helps everything else fall into place.

2. Be each other's safe place, where both can be open and honest, and receive grace.

3. Learn about your own and each other's sexuality, in general as male/female, and as individuals. It can prevent a lot of misunderstandings, frustrations, and hurt, while building intimacy.

[DoveGrey]

1. Make time for each other without distractions.
2. Have conversations in which you listen 50% of the time and contribute 50% of the time.
3. Seek to do things together that will intentionally create memories.

[RedsPastor]

1. Make time for each other without distractions.
2. Have conversations in which you listen 50% of the time and contribute 50% of the time.
3. Seek to do things together that will intentionally create memories.

I REALLY like #3.

[DoveGrey]

1. Make time for each other without distractions.
2. Have conversations in which you listen 50% of the time and contribute 50% of the time.
3. Seek to do things together that will intentionally create memories.

I REALLY like #3.

#3 became important to me in our early years, when I nearly didn't survive an ectopic pregnancy. Faced with imminent death, I realized that I wanted my family to hold strong memories of good times.

I have a dear friend who purposely finds a sitter for the kids and does something special with his wife for at least a weekend every six months. The stories he tells! Their shared memories are part of who they are as a couple. I think that's important.

[LHK]

1. Relational priorities are important

• God (note this is God not church)

• Each other

• Family

• Everyone else

2. Life often gets in the way, intentionally make time to reconnect
3. Surround yourselves with other strong marriages, particularly couples that are further along than you are.[/list]

LHK