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Wanting tips on how to best pleasure my future husband

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Hi guys,


I have a few ideas that I’m unable to discuss with anyone in my personal life, so I wanted to do it anonymously on here. I would much prefer to chat in the dms because I don’t want anyone to feel uncomfortable. I have this whole wedding night fantasy in my mind and while I won’t share it on this forum I do have a few key components that I could use pointers/advice on.

How do Christian men feel about lingerie?
How do Christian men feel about using swear words during sexual activity
Do men fantasize about their wedding/wedding night as much as women?
Single guys, do you have an ideal wedding night in mind?
Do you have any tips or pointers that I should try with my future husband that you would want your spouse to do?
Single guys what is your opinion on “naughty girls”
How long should I expect my husband to last
How can I make my husband have a really good orgasm
Would you prefer to finish in your wife or pull out/cum in a condom?

These are some of the questions I have but I do definitely have other ideas. Again, I might be more comfortable over private message
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No two people are alike, Christian or not. Maybe you can discuss it with him. Beliefs vary you may want to know his beliefs about sex.

Neither of us had a fantasy about our wedding night. Never heard of anyone that did except that it would be special. Or fear if they were a virgin.
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Violetwinters wrote: Wed Nov 08, 2023 9:44 am I have a few ideas that I’m unable to discuss with anyone in my personal life, so I wanted to do it anonymously on here. I would much prefer to chat in the dms because I don’t want anyone to feel uncomfortable. I have this whole wedding night fantasy in my mind and while I won’t share it on this forum I do have a few key components that I could use pointers/advice on.
These are some of the questions I have but I do definitely have other ideas. Again, I might be more comfortable over private message
I see several references to private/direct messages. I strongly recommend against going the private-message route for this kind of thing (or honestly anything where looking for a good range of valid feedback). There are a currently a lot of disingenuous accounts here looking to prey on people. That’s a warning for both the people asking for PM’s as well as those responding to said requests.

If I had to put a rule of thumb on it, I’d say not to trust PM’s from accounts with their first posts being less than one year old. Essentially, TMB has seen a big influx of troublemakers since TMB was listed as one of several “Christian” sex sources on another site where everything else on the list was erotica, porn, and/or swinging related.

Bottom line - asking for PMs is literally asking for trouble.
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How do Christian men feel about lingerie? Yes please. Wedding night I would would recommend something white and bridal looking, maybe have something naughtier looking for later during your honeymoon.

How do Christian men feel about using swear words during sexual activity - it never has really done anything for me, but a genuinely expressed expletive of how amazing and hot it is would be nice.

Do men fantasize about their wedding/wedding night as much as women? probably more


Single guys, do you have an ideal wedding night in mind? not a single guy, but showing up willing to be adventurous with reasonable expectations. It may not be amazing, earthshattering sex the first time, you have a lifetime to figure it out

Do you have any tips or pointers that I should try with my future husband that you would want your spouse to do? just allowing him to explore your body and you to explore his, maybe allowing him to try oral sex on you before penetration. Save oral on him for later, as it could easily lead to finishing before he wants to

Single guys what is your opinion on “naughty girls” not single, but that's not really an angle I'd recommend playing up on your honeymoon.

How long should I expect my husband to last - about 6 seconds. Seriously, some guys don't make it all the way in the first time, or even sometimes if its been a while. If he's never done it before, 2 minutes would be kind of legendary

How can I make my husband have a really good orgasm - they are all pretty good, but generally speaking, the longer you can make the foreplay and anticipation, the better the orgasm is going to feel

Would you prefer to finish in your wife or pull out/cum in a condom? definitely finish inside the first time. Pull out might be nice to try some time during your honeymoon. In a condom only if there are no other options available

Enjoy, good luck with your wedding night
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Regardless of how long someone had been here, they may feel more comfortable conversing one-on-one on certain topics. If this site doesn’t want people to dm, then get rid of the feature. Otherwise, people are grown adults and can’t make their own decisions.
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Okay so I totally understand that “asking for pm’s might be trouble” and I am sure as with every sort of site there are people here looking to use it for the wrong reasons.

However, I don’t agree that it will “ask” for trouble. I’ve already dealt with barriers in having to ask questions, posting certain questions etc. it feels like the lines are super unclear because I see several married couples posting in forums with the same material, but because I am single it’s not okay for me? Single people also deal with sexual questions and concerns in their attempts to wait for marriage and it should be a safe place to voice those concerns. This is one of the only sites that I have seen that allows that.

For the married couples on here, I feel like maybe if it’s been a while since you’ve been single it might be hard to remember the valid feelings and concerns you wish you had someone to help answer or give their ideas/pointers.

With all due respect, it Feels a bit judgement also to be honest. It seems like this site is more catered to the married club than those who of us who are Christian singles. Also I don’t see the problem in connecting with other single Christian’s on a forum, especially if you have had trouble connecting in person with other Christian’s. I haven’t meshed with a lot of like minded Christian men and while some of you are lucky enough to be married, remember not everyone is.
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Re: Wanting tips on how to best pleasure my future husband

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FLLYDVTD1 wrote: Wed Nov 08, 2023 11:32 am Regardless of how long someone had been here, they may feel more comfortable conversing one-on-one on certain topics. If this site doesn’t want people to dm, then get rid of the feature. Otherwise, people are grown adults and can’t make their own decisions.

Agreed, this website is an adults only forum anyway, also with being on here for at least a year, do you want people to just not post their questions or concerns for a whole year? How else do you expect us to connect with other people. There is a whole singles forum here so why discourage discussion that SINGLES can relate to.
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Violetwinters wrote: Wed Nov 08, 2023 11:39 am
FLLYDVTD1 wrote: Wed Nov 08, 2023 11:32 am Regardless of how long someone had been here, they may feel more comfortable conversing one-on-one on certain topics. If this site doesn’t want people to dm, then get rid of the feature. Otherwise, people are grown adults and can’t make their own decisions.

Agreed, this website is an adults only forum anyway, also with being on here for at least a year, do you want people to just not post their questions or concerns for a whole year? How else do you expect us to connect with other people. There is a whole singles forum here so why discourage discussion that SINGLES can relate to.
Well said. If someone DM you something you object to, stop DMing them. Other than warning to not agree to meet people in person, give your real name or phone number it seems a bit odd on a sex site to warn people not to DM. Then again maybe some people need to be treated like a child. DM is here for a reason. But ok just wait a year and come back and ask again.
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This isn't a yes or no question or in any way judgmental.How would you feel about your future husband asking these questions on a forum?IYou will get honest responces from the overwhelming majority but how will you sort out those who are not?As for PMs I thought I could have a light hearted conversation about an issue with a PM and this person's language was such that I doubt he has ever darkened a church door.So I would just say watch your step.
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Re: Wanting tips on how to best pleasure my future husband

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Totally understand that it can be taken in the wrong direction.
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