DaveW wrote: ↑Tue Jul 05, 2022 3:21 am
It is interesting that Paul lists self control as a fruit of the Spirit, but never says it in regards to sexual desire. If you read 1 Cor 7 he says that if you have desire issues, get married. He does not
say to exercise more self control. And yet that is where we seem to apply that the most.
That seems like a terrible argument and logic. Neither did Paul talk about self-control with food, yet gluttony is a sin. You say he didn’t connect it to sexual desire, yet we still know that sexual immorality and lust is a sin. Fruits of the Spirit are a reflection of God’s presence and integration into our life as a whole, living with integrity. Are you going to try and suggest that all the other fruits of the Spirit are useless because Paul didn’t get specific? Probably not. Self-control is about controlling oneself & behavior in all different areas and situations.
Unlike what some women want, men can’t control their God-given sexual desire from occurring or a man’s visual nature BUT we can control how we share it, express it, and cultivate it. Exercising self-controls with one’s sexual desire or urge is like giving a river its banks and telling it where it can operate and flow. A river without banks, without edges, without control, can leave a path of destruction, flooding…but one with banks and boundaries can be channeled to power cities.
Personally, I like the idea of doing the big M before going out on a date if you know you will be getting aroused. And maybe even excusing yourself to the bathroom during the date to do it again if you need to.
If one have to excuse oneself on a date to go masturbate, I’d say someone has a problem, especially when guys can get erections multiple times an hour, let alone have a sexual thought. This is where boundaries and self-control come in.